(At a social gathering, making eye contact naturally) “I have a random question. You look like someone with good taste. I’m trying to settle a debate – do you think confidence is loud or quiet?” Her: “Quiet.” You: “Interesting. My friend thinks loud confidence is real. I think quiet people who listen are way more dangerous.” Her: “Dangerous how?” You: “Because they see everything. Like right now, I notice you didn't laugh at my joke earlier. That tells me you’re not easily impressed. I respect that.” (No neg. Pure observation + respect + a slight push forward).
by Mark Manson